tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15914227.post6853608844766611620..comments2023-10-19T20:24:30.761+08:00Comments on Orpheus Sings the Guitar Electric: Observations at a Funeraldarkorpheushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02565452271408221461noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15914227.post-66223543800786411722008-04-11T11:50:00.000+08:002008-04-11T11:50:00.000+08:00Nymeth Exactly. We have become uneasy with genuine...<B>Nymeth</B> Exactly. We have become uneasy with genuine feeling. Maybe it's okay to shed a few tears at a funeral, but not the heart-wrenching sobs, it's not dignified.<BR/><BR/>What happened to us as people? When did we become so awkward with feelings?darkorpheushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02565452271408221461noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15914227.post-60039283776339566542008-04-11T04:17:00.000+08:002008-04-11T04:17:00.000+08:00I can relate to this post a lot. Whenever I hear p...I can relate to this post a lot. Whenever I hear people saying "don't cry" at funerals, or even worse, say "you have to be strong" to those in mourning, I want to scream. Why do they have to be strong? Why can't they grieve? And since when is grieving a sign of being weak anyway?<BR/><BR/>"The grief is messy -- because it is public. The truth is, we are uneasy with grief, and death."<BR/><BR/>So very true.Ana S.https://www.blogger.com/profile/16092495983972185943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15914227.post-66421050555913331902008-04-10T23:14:00.000+08:002008-04-10T23:14:00.000+08:00Yogamum Oh dear. I hope you had more patience for ...<B>Yogamum</B> Oh dear. I hope you had more patience for your Annoying Aunt than I did. I think I behaved badly with The Annoying Aunt that day. <BR/><BR/>I read a library copy of <I>The Year of Magical Thinking</I>. Because of it, I am full of admiration for Joan Didion. The friend who gifted your mother the book is cool.<BR/><BR/>I find myself coming back to that book from time to time. I wish I had bought a copy instead. It explores so honestly our attitudes to grief and mortality.darkorpheushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02565452271408221461noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15914227.post-27927871411115052622008-04-10T23:05:00.000+08:002008-04-10T23:05:00.000+08:00Yes, it is so true how people project onto others ...Yes, it is so true how people project onto others *their* needs and try to control in them what they cannot control in themselves. I have an Annoying Aunt, too, and she partly inspired that post of mine.<BR/><BR/>A friend gave my mom that Joan Didion book. It is such a beautiful exploration of grief.Yogamumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02736784200874589271noreply@blogger.com