tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15914227.post8431999648775000155..comments2023-10-19T20:24:30.761+08:00Comments on Orpheus Sings the Guitar Electric: Brooding Post, Even a Little Whinydarkorpheushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02565452271408221461noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15914227.post-21471316613869958822008-02-06T21:04:00.000+08:002008-02-06T21:04:00.000+08:00Dorothy Thank you - although it might just be a si...<B>Dorothy</B> Thank you - although it might just be a sign of my gradual mellowing down. ;p<BR/><BR/>I think it's the quiet, introvert, private people that are more easily misunderstood -- it's harder to read them, I guess - and a lot of us don't really take the time to delve deeper.<BR/><BR/>If you're the sort that prefers books to social parties - you might be accused of being "anti-social". <BR/><BR/>If you're taciturn, preferring to listen before commenting, people might again accused you of being "dull" or "unfriendly".<BR/><BR/>We often judge too easily. Which is a good reminder for myself not to be too quick to judge the colleague I dubbed "Killjoy". She might have a reason for how she reacted. I'm not sure if I'll ever find out though.<BR/><BR/>Maybe I think too much. I might be a lot happier if I thought less.darkorpheushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02565452271408221461noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15914227.post-55114871349812925142008-02-06T20:39:00.000+08:002008-02-06T20:39:00.000+08:00It is very hard when people have an idea of you th...It is very hard when people have an idea of you they just won't let go and that they use to judge and limit you. I sympathize! And I think you're doing an admirable job thinking through it and being philosophical and forgiving about it.Rebecca H.https://www.blogger.com/profile/10825532162727473112noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15914227.post-10676214887143733812008-02-06T14:58:00.000+08:002008-02-06T14:58:00.000+08:00woyo Chris I'm slightly amused at the two Chris-es...<B>woyo Chris</B> I'm slightly amused at the two Chris-es(?) commenting on this post.<BR/> <BR/>That was lame, sorry. ;) <BR/><BR/>Thank you for the concern - and you're right - our thoughts does shape the world, as it says in the Dhammapada:<BR/><BR/>"We are what we think.<BR/>All that we are arises with our thoughts."<BR/><BR/>You are also right when you said there is no need for a villain in the story. I'm not sure why she reacted the way she did, but it would be better for both of us if I can just let it go.<BR/><BR/>I'm at work today - it's eve of Chinese New Year! Yay! <BR/><BR/>KJ is at work today, and everything's back to normal. No drama. But I did notice that KJ looked stressed today. Maybe that's why. <BR/><BR/>Just let go.darkorpheushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02565452271408221461noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15914227.post-60837933826329622632008-02-06T12:49:00.000+08:002008-02-06T12:49:00.000+08:00I'm happy that you woke up feeling a little better...I'm happy that you woke up feeling a little better about this situation, because it was upsetting to see your anger and hurt of last night. Because I like and respect the bit of you I know about, my first inclination was to hate and despise that young woman. Whom I don't even know.<BR/><BR/>No one can understand everything that is going on inside of us. So sometimes, other people are not going to respond the way we want/need them to. Particularly when we are going through times of change, folks may have a hard time keeping up. Even when the change seems glaringly obvious to us, it will take others time to notice, longer to understand, and even longer to respond. <BR/><BR/>Was she being malicious?<BR/><BR/>It seems like you thought this person was someone worth sharing a light moment with. Maybe that's why it hurt when she wouldn't share. Is she still worth it? Might she learn you a little better with time? With patience?<BR/><BR/>Sure, she rained on your parade. But it's your parade. It's up to you to decide whether to cut her some slack or to brand a big "KJ" on her forehead. But be careful ... our thoughts can shape our reality.<BR/><BR/>Does this story really need a villain?<BR/><BR/>P.S. I realize that I don't really know what the hell I'm talking about. I just hate seeing you hurt.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15914227.post-49552103700515821182008-02-06T09:15:00.000+08:002008-02-06T09:15:00.000+08:00Thanks, Chris. I woke up this morning wondering wh...Thanks, Chris. I woke up this morning wondering why I allowed myself to be so bothered. I really need to grow up sometimes and get over this teenage insecurity. <BR/><BR/>I am born in the year of the Dragon afterall, and we are creatures of will and strength. So poo on her - I will dance if I want - which I do, to the soundtrack of "Strictly Ballroom."<BR/><BR/>Oh, and 2008 is the Year of the Rat. Unromantic, yes - but it's the first animal in the Chinese Zodiac, so 2008 is the beginning of a new cycle.darkorpheushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02565452271408221461noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15914227.post-79590485364329629542008-02-06T03:58:00.000+08:002008-02-06T03:58:00.000+08:00Well good for you for having some fun! And poo on ...Well good for you for having some fun! And poo on her for being like that! People have a tendency to be uncomfortable with what they're not familiar with and react in really ridiculous ways....such as Killjoy. I think you hit the nail on the head with your last few words. We all have those sides of ourselves that we never really show anyone. We all have our insecurities and fears that stay with us...the things that keep us from totally being ourselves and it's ashame that when we actually take leaps like this they backfire. I hope it doesn't hold you back though...And happy new year! What animal is it this year?chrisa511https://www.blogger.com/profile/05793512698366676453noreply@blogger.com